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Just a note to let you all know we are back in Fergus. We're both brusied and battered, but we have some wonderful memories. Over the next few days, we have a heap of e-mail to work our way thru as well as BB stuff.
We had quite a day yesterday. The flight from Vancouver to Toronto was delayed 5 hours. It was going on 1am by the time we got to Toronto. The airline arranged for us to spend the night at a nearby motel and our son Adam picked us up this morning.
Barb still has an unused air ticket in her purse. At the end of the day, my daughter's heroin addiction won the battle. I consider this Round One.
In the last few days, Barb and I have seen a lot of ugliness. I know the experience has changed both of us forever. We are not as innocent as we were a week ago. It's sure nice to be back in Letterville.
We want to appeal to all of you to try and be just a little more tolerant of each other. Try to find the positive in the posts you read here.
Dispite the pissing contests and disagreeing, there is something magic about Letterville that keeps us all coming back day after day. I honestly believe we are really a family here. When the going gets tough, this is my home.
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Glad you made it home! You guys have to be in the middle of one of lifes worst struggles! A very similar thing happened to my daughter when she was in her late teens, seemed the more we tried to save or fight for her the further she slipped away,this was the toughest battle I ever fought!! I guess it was not "us who won the battle" years later,but her!! She was also fighting(though it didn't look that way to us)and she WON the battle!! She is now a very bright 31 year old single mother, with a career in buiss. (even a board member).We realize now how lucky we all were that our daughter found the strength and was back,better then ever!
Good luck to you guys with yours!! Roger
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I just want to say I feel for you and Barb and what you've been through.
I have a close friend and former lover who struggled for years with addiction to alcohol and cocaine. She has been clean and sober for the past eight years, thanks to AA and NA, but still struggles with the issues of self-esteem and depression, in part because of regrets about the lost opportunities and what she sees as the wasted years of her youth. Whatever course your daughter takes, realize that getting clean and sober is just the first step, albeit the largest and most important, in a recovery process that will last the rest of her life.
How she copes with recovery, if and when she chooses it, will depend on the kind of love and support she gets from those around her. Learn all you can about recovery in advance, so that if and when she chooses to be clean, you will be prepared to give her the support she needs. Best of luck to all of you.
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one of the very hardest things in life is to see your child hurting themselves and not be able to stop them to love them thru their stupidity and thoughtlessness to see the perfect gift you gave them being mistreated and neglected to know that there isnt one thing u can do or say that will stop them from choosing to speed up their own decline
and knowing that we wanted our kids to have free will, to stand on their own and take responibility for themselves, still doesnt help us understand that it is not our fault when things go wrong and they cant or wont see it we will always have a vested interest 'their life not ours', they will tell u with all the passion of a free spirit
yes darlin it is your life and your body... but who do u think gave it to u!
good luck to u both
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The posts previous to mine have all been right on target. Barb let your daughter know that you still have that ticket in your purse. Work to help her in her fight. Her inner strength will be her greatest weapon, but your support will be her sheild. I have a good friends who have both surcome and overcome addiction. Those who have made it through had both desire and support. Good luck.
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