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He was readmitted to hospital last week as he wasn't doing well.
Each day he seemed to take one step forward and then one and a half back so that we knew it wouldn't be long. and yet in my heart i kept thinking maybe he can pull out of it.
I was the only one with him went he went as the rest of my family had gone to rest and eat and catch up with their families.
I miss him already. the thought of not being able to pick up the phone and talk over some project I'm on or get his unsolicited advise. To be able to get his thoughts on stuff or just to amaze him with some of the new stuff coming out on the market.
He had got a computer about a year ago and that gave us another excuse to talk and I got to show him that contary to his belief, he didn't know everything.
It wasn't like we were best friends as our relationship was never like that but we had something that i know i will miss.
We have the removal tonight. which is where the body is going to be moved from the funeral home to the church. then tomorrow will be the funeral Mass and then the burial.
Two days I could do without.
-------------------- Miles Cullinane, Cork, Ireland.
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Sorry for your loss, Miles. Steve Goodman wrote a song about "I miss my old man, tonight". What you said reminded me of that song. Peace be with you during these tough days ahead.
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Miles, My condolences…were trying to be prepared for the end of my dad’s battle with terminal lung cancer. The last few weeks he’s been pretty good but we know what’s coming.
Same here as far as not the best relationship…but I know it’s still going to hurt.
Jeff
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So sorry to hear this Miles. The loss of a father is especially devastating. I was lucky to be a "Daddy's Girl" and got to have my dad for 29 years.
You know, there were 7 of us, we never missed Mass, Daddy's firm yet quiet guidance was always there and still is (along with Mom's slightly firmer and louder version, God bless her, she's now 80)
To this day, people will talk to me about how he touched their lives and sometimes even shed a tear. He was a magistrate for many years and before that, a door-to-door insurance salesman and before that, a streetcar driver, and before that, one of 17 children in the biggest family in this area.
I feel him in the oddest moments, not when I try but when he just pops in unannounced. He loved looking for blue herons while in his boat on the river that he loved, which he lost his life in. Herons are sort of rare around here. Do you know that I see them even in local creeks now? Even when I'm not trying to find them. I always think that's Daddy's way of saying "Hey I know you're there, but I am so busy flying high, and having so much fun...just wanted to surprise you."
I have had two elusive dreams of him, in crisis times of my life. He always says "Everything is going to be just fine." Eerily, my brother has had the same dream unbeknownst to me until recently.
There were 7 of us scrabbling for his attention when he was alive. Now he flits through our lives and memories at will. I welcome these moments and cherish them.
Your dad sounds like he was a good man. And you know, all dads really do know everything. Take care now. Love....Jill
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My heart goes out to you, Miles. May your father rest in peace.
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Pass the kleenex Jill. What Jill says is true, ... he will pop up in times you least expect. I've been without my dad for over 10 years now. Lost him suddenly, as he died in his sleep one night. We think it was an anurism, or a massive heart attack. He had immediate medical help (within minutes), but they could not bring him back. Lights out!
It's surreal to have a dad earlier in the day and then gone that night.
Since then the times I feel him and think of him will be over the mundane and minor things.
He was kind of the "my way or the wrong way" kind of guy too. But in later years he mellowed alot. I feel extremely lucky to have had such full last years with him, as we worked together (bickering alot hahahaa) on my house quite a lot.
Thanks for allowing me to speak of my dad for a bit here.
Wow ... I really feel for you.
~nettie
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I pray for peace and comfort for you and yours during these times. He will help you through.
Bruce
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yeah losing your dad is tough i know. i was really close with my dad and miss him terribly, but i gotta say...his energy is with me alot so it makes it easier. my condolences to you and your family.
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Miles,I feel for you. My dad is my friend and would leave a big hole if he passed away. I can only offer my thoughts and prayers to you and hope you have great memories of your poppa.
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I'm so sorry to hear of your dad's passing. I feel for you, Miles. I was also at my dad's side when he died from cancer. It wasn't a peaceful passing, but I was greatful that it didn't happen while he was alone. May God's peace be with you and your family.
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Miles, there is a part of him that will always live on in you and your other family members. Loosing a parent always leaves a big empty spot, that eventually will fill with memories. Start collecting them right away. Take Care.
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Sorry to hear that, Miles. I hope you got to have that talk with your Dad. I think of my Dad every day. He's been gone 7-1/2 years now. What Sheila said....
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Sorry to hear of your loss Miles. My Mom will be gone a year May 28th. I think of her every day, she always brings a smile to my face. I wish I had more time with her, she was only 69
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Is it true that the Irish no longer have "wakes"? Seems a shame if it is true.
Celebrate life, even in loss.
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Sorry here too Miles. Dads have such an impact on our lives and sometimes we recognize that influence later on. I hope and pray that you will find peace after time from this loss and comfort in knowing you're being thought of by so many here.
From one Irish American that wishes you the best.
Sign-cerely, Steve Luck
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Miles, my heart goes out to you. It's hard to find just the right words. We travel many miles, some of them longer than others, some embraced with sweet and vivid lasting memories. I don't know what I would percieve as peace and hope if I wasn't leaning on our Lord. That's the brightest side I can imagine, and it holds me up throughout my life, and yes, I do have many signs from my father, mother and loved ones that have traveled the roads ahead of us. May peace and harmony be yours with your Father's spirit always within and around you to guide you and comfort you with the promise of a beautiful tomorrow.
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Thank you all for this support, I feel it. I really do.
The Irish do still have wakes but it is a little different these days. it isn't a 3 day drinking session any more.
at the funeral home there would have been maybe two or three hundred people file past the coffin and then shake hands with each member of the immediate family and offer condolences.
then we moved my father from the Funeral home to the church last night and then after the church there was a general invitation from the family given at the pulpit to everybody to join us at a hotel for drinks and a bite to eat. this is when we get a chance to talk and reminisce with people.
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-------------------- Miles Cullinane, Cork, Ireland.
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I'm sorry to hear about your loss, Miles. Best wishes for the future, too. Ian
(PS my gr.gr.grandmother came from Cork- she was an O'Grady)
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May the God of peace and love bring peace to you and your family in this difficult time. Our prayers and thoughts are with you. I know it sounds weak now, but in time the pain will dissipate and the love and memories will grow stronger. I still miss my father, but the memories of him grow more precious with each passing year. I grieve with you in your loss.
Jill...wow! Such a poetic description of your father...what a great heritage.
Jack
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