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I don't know about you guys, but I'm driving myself crazy here. I've got so much on my plate these day, and I feel like I've got to do it all myself! I'm terrible at asking for help, terrible at deligating, yet I'm really getting ticked off at those around me for "not helping".
I'm starting a huge job today that I'm in WAAYYYY over my head. I bid it last year when I was young and confident....It got put off and now here I go. My employee didn't come in yesterday, but quite frankly, she isn't much help. My husband has left for work and is booked into a golf tourney this weekend. So off I go with my wheelbarrel and hoe, bags of masonry cement, saws, chisels, and three pallets of cultured stone. Ask for help? Are you kidding??? How could I stomp around on the verge of tears then???
Suelynn
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Suelynn Sedor Sedor Signs Carnduff, SK Canada Posts: 2863 | From: Carnduff, SK Canada | Registered: Nov 1998
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" last year when I was young and confident" Want me to come and help? I still think I'm young and confident..... We can work for a couple of hours and then knock off for the day - any good bars around there.... You'll do good Linnie and just think of the satisfaction you are going to have when you step back and look at the finished product. You got a couple of nice days forcasted - go get at 'er.
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Kelly Thorson Kel-T-Grafix 801 Main St. Holdfast, SK S0G 2H0 ktg@sasktel.net Posts: 5496 | From: Penzance, Saskatchewan | Registered: May 2002
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Suelynn, If you weren't so far away, I would like to help. I have a tile/brick saw, some trowels, mortar mixer, etc. and have been dying to try working with some cultured stone.
Have fun and post pics!
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Trying is the first step towards failure, Suelynn!
Just kidding! Go for it!
I'm great at delegating tasks to other people, I just don't have anyone else to delegate to! I do like to see, touch and smell everything myself but I can let someone go at a task without hovering over them.... I just gotta inspect it thoroughly after the fact.
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Mike Pipes stickerpimp.com Lake Havasu, AZ mike@stickerpimp.com Posts: 8746 | From: Lake Havasu, AZ USA | Registered: Jun 2000
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If I lived near I'd work with ya. I think us sign chics need to all move closer and start an all woman shop. Look how well it's working for the gals at www.signit-signs.com
Girls Rule! We all know we need to do it ourselves if it's gonna get done right!
OK, I'm outta here!
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We must be cut from the same cloth, Linnie. Leopard-skin velour, of course. Chin up. I only cry when I'm mad. Love.....Jill
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Linnie, I'm sorry to say this, but I think it's a Mars & Venus thing. If I need a hand, I'll go and ask my wife. It gets done. If she needs a hand, she won't just ask. She will NOT ask. She will not ASK. She says she shouldn't have to. In the mean time I have no idea she wants help, as she doesn't ask for it. Later she'll yell at the kids to do something, but she won't be specific about WHO is to do it, nor what she wants them to do, so they don't do it. Then more yells. She says they're supposed to KNOW what she wants done without her having to tell them. (mind readers they must be )
I keep expanining to her with help, it's a simple communication thing- just ask! (there's no pride being broken there.) She won't though. But boy does she get moody sometimes. ( maybe it's a humility/humbleness thing with her, but it shouldn't be?)
I just put it down to old age/menopause/whatever, and get back to work. If I do happen to twig & go and help her, the moodiness often remains, as 'I should have helped her before it got to that stage'.
When she's not moody, she's lovely though!
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"...there are no limits when you aim for perfection..." Jonathan Livingston Seagull Posts: 7014 | From: Highgrove via Toowoomba, Queensland, Australia | Registered: Dec 2002
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totally understand what you're saying!!!! asking for help is extremely hard for me...it suks! so this morning i was up 18ft on a ladder taking down 10 panels...6 of them full 4x8s. i gotta say i love that little giant ladder...best $400 you could spend....it says its rated for like 300lbs, being about half that i felt safe...don't think i'd feel so safe if i weighed over 250. now i have to clean & turn the panels around..puke out versaprints and cover...then reinstall. i hate installs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
-------------------- Karyn Bush Simply Not Ordinary, LLC Bartlett, NH 603-383-9955 www.snosigns.com info@snosigns.com Posts: 3516 | From: Bartlett, NH USA | Registered: Jan 2001
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I can sure identify . . . poor Emily, I certainly ask for help, constantly reminding her that she lives here to and is a vital part of contributing to the family structure, blah-blah-blah . . .
I think lecturing could actually be harder work than mixin' concrete . . . .
but it's not like she does'nt need a break too, what with school all day, homework, then, housework!?!
For me it's when too many little things to be done pile-up 'cause at that point, I get pretty ill about being the only one of two people in this dwelling who sees the obvious.
I seldom cry . . .but I get that extremely unpleasant facial expression and have to use that same horribley firm 'mother-voice' my mom used to use which I hated then too . . .
I'm glad you used a laughing gremlin Suelynn . . .it's hard to have a good 'tude when we feel a little resentment for having to endure all the responsibility . . .
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"Look like a girl, act like a lady, think like a man, work like a dog" Posts: 5758 | From: "Sweet Home" Alabama | Registered: Mar 2003
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Hey, Suelynn, what are you building anyways? I'm sure it will turn out alright, but it can be tough to tackle something new. My helper has deserted me, too. I guess weeding vinyl isn't all that interesting after a while... What do people expect? That they can sit at the desk and do the designing while I weed vinyl and sand the boards? Ok, here's today's exercise: Repeat after me, Can you help me, please? Can you help me, please? Can you...
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Lets go help her Lottie... We never did get together on those murals like we talked about. I think part of of why we won't ask for help is a pride thing Linnie. We are a bunch of girls breaking into a traditionally male craft and we'll be damned if we'll show any weaknesses, lest someone tells us we don't belong here - which is quite foolish, because there aspects of this business that lend themselves to both female and male strengths. At least thats how I explain my stupid stubborness....
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Sometimes asking for help from one with experience is cheaper than doing it yourself. They will show you the quickest, easiest way. Don't be bashful, your looks will get you help faster.
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Suelynn..... Some of my best work is done when I should have asked for help....when I have not asked for help....when my spouse should have offered help....and when I am frustrated and angry because of all the above.....then when it turns out great.....I sign with relief and feel very proud. (and when did you get old and lose your confidence?) Take a deep breathe....and go for it. You can do this....go for it.
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Thanks for the support guys and gals! I'm glad it isn't just me!
Ian, call any one of us gals the next time your wife is upset and you don't know why...we'd know in and instant!
Lotti, this is a double sided monument sign (8ftX20ft) with pillars at each end. The base is made of poured concrete, so I'm installing cultured cobblestone over that.
Today went really very well. I had a little trouble getting the consistancy of the mortar right, but once I figured it out, I was okay. My sister showed up at 2pm to help and we called it a day just before 6:00. We only got 3/4 of one pillar done, but I'm sure tommorrow will go MUCH faster. Hope we can work through the weekend and GITTER DONE!
I may post some pics tommorrow...I'm pooped!
Suelynn
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Suelynn Sedor Sedor Signs Carnduff, SK Canada Posts: 2863 | From: Carnduff, SK Canada | Registered: Nov 1998
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I'd trade young and confident for older and wiser anyday, LOL. Actually, I think my confidence of yesteryear was more along the lines of "ignorance". I'm a lot more confident nowadays but it's tempered with a lot more wisdom and trepidation. I no longer barge in where angels fear to tread. Don't be afraid to ask for help. Remember that you can always say that you need more time due to the humidity or lack of it.
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another day another install....god i HATE installs...2..4'x8' alumilite panels...about 5ft off the ground so it wasn't major....BUT...when its windy and you are by yourself a 4x8 of alumilite feels like a kite! there must have been 30 cars in the parking lot(i think the woman who sold it was having her goodbye bash)...all i could imagine is a bunch of people sitting around drinking and placing bets on whether or not i would drop the sign or fall off the ladder. (how did the blonde french polock break both legs?) i'm sure i looked like a bumbling fool...dropping screws...then my drill as i'm trying to hold this 4x8 in place with my left arm up on a ladder. i only need to do it for a few seconds(twice)to put the top screw in...then i was golden! but it still sucked! i dread putting up the 2 sided 12'x12' thats high up. i'm thinking putting them up is harder than taking them down. i will be asking for help on that one...and this time...the guy can go up on the big ladder!
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i'm with ricky ! though i can sympathise with Ian ! dude, it's a woman thing, like you say, mars and venus ! like all week (girlfiend is at work) i'm working my nads off to get the new workshop done, walk the dogs, do the porch roof, do the porch ceiling, mend a door, continually shoot indoors to load/unload the washeing machine, dishwasher, and dryer, fix some guttering, and a hundred other jobs, i forget to do the hoovering and all of a sudden 'i'm not giving her support about the house' ! excuse me !! i put it down to a bad day, the kids hadnt tidied their rooms, had left the top bathroom in a state (she hadnt told me that) and whatever else,
but i guess its all part and parcel, i'll still marry her without a doubt !!!
suelynne, you go girl, but just dont be afraid to ask for help, never ever !! i dread to think of the mess ups i could have made, had i not called up or asked advice from those i consider 'knowledgable', my race car would be blown to peices and my signs would suck worse than they still might !
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